Category: He Said, She Said
Unattached Sex: You’re Better Than That
Sex. The most exciting human universal action. The idea of it alone penetrates almost every aspect of our lives, in one manner or the other. A conversation exploring sex could take years to finish and I don’t have that time.
Rather, I will just examine the idea of unattached sex and why it is simply not worth it for the 2012 human being.
Now, I would never argue against sex and its far reaching positive effects on your life and body. Ever. When we have sex with one another, we work at a higher level. We become focused on satisfying needs, but still knowing what we want individually. The whole “sex is like dancing” comparison is true: just as a salsa dancer thinks two steps ahead and aligns with his or her partner, sexual partners move, feel and think in unison at an extremely high level.
So, we should have sex as often and as many times as we can because of how amazing it is, right?
The way of thinking directly undermines the beauty of the sex: the connection. The male salsa dancer does not simply pick up the first partner he can find. No, the salsa dancer chooses the partner based upon chemistry, compatibility and the ability to get down better than any other.
The next time the night is ending and you’re feeling the need to find someone to take home remember these words: you’re better than that. I know you may have a need to feel close to another human, but using sex for those needs can only lead to a shallow, empty feeling when you wake up and forget his/her name.
There are other ways to fulfill that needs. Pull up the Facebook page of an old friend and drop him or her a line. Or better yet, call someone and have a drunken conversation. The results will certainly have fewer negative repercussions AND you’re keeping yourself safe from those nasty diseases that come with random and/or unprotected sex.
So, slow down and think before you throw yourself at the first person willing to venture south of your border. This may not be the easiest task, but will pay off as you will get to see the beauty of sex with someone you actually care for and know that he or she cares too.
Unattached Sex: Now Is The Time
It’s exactly what it means: incredible sex involving absolutely no attachment. It can happen on a Thursday night downtown or in Panama during spring break. It’s completely freeing and sensational, what’s not to love?
It’s almost closing time and you’ve been eyeing up this sexy mysterious person from across the bar. You exchange some sensual chatter and the physical chemistry is off the charts. The only thing you’ve got on your mind is imagining how fast you can rip off each other’s clothes. You go home and get it in. You’ll have absolutely no shame in stripping and strutting your stuff around your bedroom like the hottest stars in your favorite porn film. The sex is incredible, sensual, steamy and most importantly unattached.
Whether you’re meeting for the first time or have known each other for a while, you’ll be happy to wake up in the morning and not have to worry about how you look or how long you’ll have to wait to send that ”Hey, I had a great time last night” text. You wont even have to send it at all.
You’re in college. There’s a lot of pressure with classes, jobs and peers convincing you to do drugs. There is absolutely no better time to have reckless sex with strangers. In high school it’s illegal, and when you graduate and are in the professional world, and well, that just looks bad. Now is the time!
Why girls love it: It’s your turn ladies, you get to use a guy for your own sexual pleasure and have absolutely no guilt about it. So behave like every weekend is spring break and get your sex on. People may call you a man-eater, but lets be honest, that’s exactly what you’re doing.
Why guys love it: It’s in your D.N.A. Having lots of sex with lots of women. OWN IT! There’s nothing to be ashamed of. When your bro’s question your magical cock, well, they’re just jealous they’re not getting it in as much as you are.
Sex is fun, but it’s better without any attachment or emotions. So go out and bang until your hearts desire! But use a condom, because you never know what shit they might have. Enjoy!