Category: He Said, She Said
When I read what my editor wanted me to write about for this week I almost split the vein in my head. Having your own personal drawer at your partner’s house is definitely something women do; not men. It makes not a single shred of sense to have to have a drawer at someone else’s residence.
First of all, you ladies have huge purses. So store your stuff in there. Don’t take up any of my drawer real-estate so you can store your Lady GaGa CD over here. Just keep it in your purse and plan ahead. As you should have figured out by now, men are very territorial creatures. So don’t impose on our turf.
Secondly, what on god’s green earth do you need to keep at our house? If it’s a sex toy or condoms it does not count as your drawer. It is still his drawer. So, unless you want your man sticking your GaGa CD up your “Who-Who” than don’t store it there. If you let her have a drawer it’s going to be something else next. The only time it is okay to let a women use one of your drawers is if she is moving in with you or you need to spy on her.
A wise man once told me, “When lying in bed with the enemy, pack light.” Anything you take over to your woman’s house can usually fit in your pockets. However, there isn’t much you can or should take over to your women’s house that needs a drawer. A shotgun, a little-bit excessive home protection; doesn’t fit in a drawer. A dog, sure you can make it fit but you probably don’t want to. Even if you’re one of those guys that blow dries his hair, use hers because the only way you can get more feminine is by bringing your own.
Just know that it totally unnecessary and illogical to have a drawer at anyone else’s house unless they are paying rent or storing sex toys.
Hypothetically, if a girl is over at a guy’s house more than she is in her own bed, the relationship is going well. The honeymoon stage you are going through feels like you almost live together. You wake up and fall asleep together. It’s a good way to start and end a day. For girls, there is more to spending the night at our boyfriend’s house/dorm/apartment.
Imagine if you would, trying to get to your 11 a.m. class after a night of lust. It won’t be easy. If you do get to class that day, it will be a walk of shame. No girl wants to have a walk of shame. Naturally, we have to change clothes and shake the sex out of our hair. By the time we do that, we are thirty minutes late to our destination.
Usually, if a girl has had enough of this, she will ask her significant other if she can have a drawer to keep a few extra clothes. Please note: I said a few, not your whole summer wardrobe.
Boys should not take this lightly. This is a big deal for us. We are asking you to provide something for us. This isn’t just any thing, this is a drawer. We are literally asking you if we can sort of move in. It’s scary for us to get to that kind of stage. Respect that.
Guys have to be able to put the brakes on the sharing space thing. Who knows? One morning you could wake up to your whole closet dedicated to shoes. Guys need to also not be afraid of what might happen. If you allow a girl to use a drawer, she isn’t going to be clingy. If anything, she is trying to be closer to you.
Finally, this doesn’t mean that you are going to move in tomorrow. It means that you are taking stages in your relationship. Take these together and nobody will feel outside the drawer, so to speak.