Category: He Said, She Said
The issue aroused quite often when couples come to that crossroads. When do you and your significant other make it Facebook official? The real answer is when you’re ready to tell the world you’re dating someone or in most cases a certain someone. When you enter this realm of a relationship, you better be ready for whatever trouble that will bring you. If you’re not don’t do it.
Guys, as much as we really don’t take Facebook seriously, this is one thing you don’t want to do if you’re not ready. Women take Facebook very seriously. If you enter into this very public contract with your significant other, you now have to watch what you do on Facebook, because you now have everyone watching you. So, if you’re not ready don’t to do it. There is one thing you can do to help take the leap is update you status with your significant other.
Ladies, don’t get upset at your man if he asks you to do this. As much as we hate to admit it, we need help. Also, consider that we are naturally not good at being monogamous. No matter what we do we will always have anxiety when we take that leap. So, don’t be afraid to push us over the edge. When I was ready to be in a relationship again I had a little anxiety about doing it. It was like the first time I signed the paper to buy my first Mustang.
Yes, I agree Facebook can be a pain in the ass. However, if all you have to do is keep her happy to make you inadvertently happy, then log-in, confirm and use Facebook minimally. You’ll be sure to like what you get.
Facebook profiles are the most important things to girls. Girls have to have good profile pictures, well-liked statuses and a good following of friends. Most importantly, girls need a relationship status. Not just a relationship status, but also one that makes their friends comment and like the notification on their newsfeeds. Herein lies a problem.
Girls have the habit of pushing the Facebook relationship on guys because they just want that: A Facebook relationship. Some girls are like that and it’s important that this seemingly minor issue be addressed early on.
When you and your girl (or guy, I don’t judge) are going out for the third date, it’s usually a good time to ask where the relationship is going. Note that I said third date. By “date”, I don’t mean sitting at your boo’s house making out. Only then should it be very clear as to where the relationship is going; nowhere. By the term “date”, I mean the kinds of things that require conversation.
On this date, the actual definition of your relationship should come up. A casual way of asking this is, “Where do you see this going?” Your romantic interest will either tell you that they need time or that they are ready for commitment. If they agree to pursue a relationship with you, don’t get excited about the Facebook thing. The other person knows how you feel and now you have to wait for the request. Don’t be THAT girl that sends the request first. I know we are very excited to have our friends freak out about it, but wait. It is the lady thing to do.
If the guy is holding out on you, wait for a couple more weeks and then ask, “Should we be Facebook official?” If he says no, don’t ask why. As long as you are in a real relationship, you don’t need a virtual one too.
At the end of the day, it’s just another Facebook thing. Remind yourself that being together on Facebook isn’t as important as being together in real life.