Category: He Said, She Said
When it comes to advice, listen to your momma, “When in doubt; throw it out.” This rule can apply to many things in your life; texting is no exception.
Guys, if you think what you are about to say is creepy, then don’t say it. Women are very romantic beings so only text the following things:
-Infrequent Random compliments
-Questions about things you’re picking up at the store
-If she starts the conversation
If you don’t follow these guidelines, you will likely come across as a creeper.
Lassies, you are not exempt either. One difference between men women texting is how we react to texting. When a women text messages too much we don’t get creeped-out; we get annoyed.
Here’s a list of things that will help ladies text your man the right way:
-Questions you have about things you’re supposed to be picking up from the store.
-To see if we are available
This rolls into my final point; save conversations you want for the phone calls, video-chat sessions and in-person conversations. The complexity of trying to communicate with others about complex things, like feelings, is too hard to convey through texts. Long past are the days when people communicated through in-person conversations and letters. For good reason, you don’t need to talk about your feelings that often. When you do end up doing so it’s again like my mom said, “All good things come to those who wait.”
Girls overanalyze everything, even a text message from a guy. A simple smiley face put in the wrong place could send a girl into convulsions. The thing to remember when texting girls is that you need to use full words.
Keep the abbreviations to the absolute minimal. The reason why abbreviations can’t be in the average romantic text is because girls will pick them apart.
-For example, if you use “ily” instead of “I love you” hell might break loose. It kind of hurts when guys can’t even write the whole phrase in a text. It may not seem like much, but girls think the most of the little things.
-Try and not use “lol” either. Mostly because the definition of “lol” has gone from, “Oh my God, that’s so funny!” to “I have nothing to say.” It may not be true for most, but to girls this is reality.
-One-worded answers are also a bad idea. Women love stories; they always have. Don’t just say you had a “good” day in your text. Explain to her why your day was good and give her a highlight. The reason why we like long texts is because we feel like we are bothering you if you send us a word or two. Please save us from feeling more insecure about ourselves and actually have a conversation with us.
-Also, I personally like the rule: Good morning texts and good night calls. Text your girl through the day, but in the nighttime hour, call for a phone conversation. Girls are enticed with the idea of falling asleep with you on the phone.
-Communication is the key to any good relationship. The means of communicating your feelings are just as important, if not more.